Saving A Relationship

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To Save A Relationship, you must ask yourself two keys questions.
1.Am I In Love?
2.Is It Love or Infatuation?

To answer these questions we need to identify what love is. Psychologists, Psychiatrists, highly educated people have been trying for centuries to answer the question, What is Love? Some of the best have said that true love is based upon several things.

Half of true love is the physical attraction. Intellectual Compatibility, Social Compatibility and Spiritual Compatibility make up the other half. Often times the
Physical attraction overtakes us and we think that we are truly in love because we look good together and our companion is soooooo cute! We love to seen around town with them. We are easily impressed by the others beauty, or handsomeness or because there are so popular. When we base our feelings on just this we base it on what the other person gives us or satisfies in us. This is a very selfish kind of “love”. It can lead to early intimacies and has very little lasting power. When problems, or stresses come up, this type of “love” just cannot handle them. But, this is the generally the first part of real love…..but it is only the FIRST part of true love!

Sometimes, we are attracted to others because of their intellectual or their social compatibility. This part of the relationship is based upon the pleasure that we receive when we are in the others company. You must realize that this is just another component of true love. It is important to like being around each other and respect each other for the person that they truly are.

The last part of true love, is the spiritually compatible factor. If you have the physical attraction, the intellectual and the social compatibility, then the last part is the spiritual.

Both of you need to really be on the same ground about spiritual matters to really have a deep and everlasting true love. Most people today disregard t his last component, and often think that they can work this out. If you and your dating partner are far apart on this one, it will most likely not work out in the long run. There are a few, but they are very few exceptions that make it long term. If you are looking into saving a relationship, then examine the components discussed above. Be honest with yourself and look deep into your soul when you are trying to determine if you are both really in love or not.

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Saving A Relationship

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So, you found yourself in a relationship that was going great and now you are worried or concerned that it is slipping away . You might ask yourself if saving a relationship is worth it. You might first ask yourself what your relationship is based on. Is it just lust? Or has it just gradually evolved from love to lust? The problem with a lust based relationship is that it is strong, impelling, and is a compelling emotion that pushes other important aspects of a true love for each other out of the picture. A relationship that also has a spiritual component to it has the following qualities; trust, fidelity, affection empathy, and friendship. If your relationship is based on just lust, then these qualities tend to get pushed aside and both of you tend to rationalize and give lots of excuses for bad behavior.

How can you tell if you are developing a true and deep love for each other? If you are a guy, you might ask yourself, “In the presence of my girlfriend, do I have to grovel? or, “Do I want to take advantage of her?” If the answer is yes, than your feelings are not true love. Does she inspire you, do you want to better yourself? If the answer is yes to these questions, then you have feelings of true love.

If you are the girl, ask yourself, “After a meeting, or a date, does he show an inclination to use me as a convenience or as a means of gratification?” If the answer is yes, then he is not motivated by real true love. Also ask yourself, “ Does he inspire me to be the best I can be?
The best way to control your lust, is to control your thoughts. Plan out how you are going to act on your next date. If lusty thoughts start to enter your mind shut them off now. Don’t rationalize these thoughts …in that there is no harm in them. These are clever persuasions. Don’t let them stay there! Get rid of them! Quickly switch your thinking to something mundane. When you learn to master these dirty little thoughts, you can overcome habits, even personal degrading habits. You will be a happier person.

So again, if you are thinking about your current relationship, ask yourself what kind of relationship you have and if it is worth saving. Ask yourself the hard questions about what kind of relationship you have. You want a relationship based on real love…..a true love… a love that is based on these four qualities; Physical Attraction, Intellectual, Social AND spiritual. You can save a relationship only if both of you want to and if you want to develop you relationship into a true and deep love.

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6 Signs You Have an Immature Relationship With Your Husband

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Sometimes love at first sight really does happen, but it’s everything that happens after that first moment you meet that counts. According to statistics, both men and women say that they are unhappy with their relationship with their spouse in the first few years of marriage. So we have compiled a list of 6 signs that your relationship may not be as mature as you are. Once you recognize these signs you can take steps to save your marriage.

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Breaking Promises

It doesn’t matter what the promise is, when you promise your spouse you will do something you make a commitment to doing it. If you or your husband is unreliable, than trust disappears.

Being Jealous

If you are in a healthy, mature relationship you would have all the confidence in your spouse and wouldn’t have feelings of jealousy. If you are feeling jealous, you may need to take a step and see what the underlying cause is.

Not Wanting to Forgive

Forgiveness is an important step in overcoming each other’s short-comings. You have to realize that neither of you are perfect, you both will make mistakes, but you have to forgive each other and move forward.

Unrealistic Expectations

If either you or your husband has unrealistic expectations about your relationship or your life as a couple, you may have an immature relationship. It’s important to have both of your feet on the ground. Realize that most likely he won’t change, the man you married is the man he will be. And the same goes for him trying to change you.

Refusing To Listen

I know we all think it’s our husband that doesn’t want to listen to us talk on and on, but we as wives need to take the time to listen to our husband’s too. When a man says something he usually means it. Take the time to talk and listen to each other so communication is open.

Being Unkind or Uncaring Towards Your Spouse

This one speaks for itself. In a mature relationship when both are deeply in love, you only want the best for the other person. If you or your spouse has any negative feelings towards the other, this is a sign that you need to communicate your true feelings toward each other.

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3 Sure Fire Ways To Saving a Relationship

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I like him, he likes me. It started out that  way why canʼt it always be that simple? Because life likes to get complicated.  Weʼll letʼs take out the complications and get back to the basics. We have talked  with the experts and broken down relationships into what they are at the core or the heart (pun intended). Out of all the couples we have talked to that have good healthy relationships it always breaks down into three main parts.

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1. Trust

In order to love someone you first have to trust them that they will love you back. But love is more than just a feeling, itʼs everything you say, do, and act towards that person. Everyone wants to love someone who they can trust, who they know they can rely on, and someone they know will always be there for them. How do you trust your partner? Be a trustworthy yourself. Make sure your boyfriend/girlfriend or spouse knows they can depend on you.

2. Quality Time

Every healthy relationship needs time to develop. Even if you feel like you have a fully developed relationship itʼs always good to spend uninterrupted quality time together. This doesnʼt mean going to a club, riding your bike, or going to a game at the stadium. There isnʼt anything wrong with these activities in general, but they donʼt give you a lot of opportunities to talk and communicate. Set aside some time, an hour, a day or weekend together when you can discuss your relationship.

3. Communication

It seems all the advice books stress good communication- thatʼs because it works. It can be hard to communicate our true feelings, but itʼs important to let your boyfriend/girlfriend or spouse what you want, what you need, what you like, what you donʼt like about your relationship. Itʼs the only way your relationship will grow when you can see the other personʼs side and point of view. Once you understand each other, you have reached a whole new level in your relationship. Thatʼs what you want, a relationship that grows deeper over time. So the longer you are together, the more your love grows for them.

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You are here to see if your relationship can be saved. You might be wondering if your relationship is worth saving.  I can tell you that from personal experience, and after seeing others in my family, and some of my friends go though bitter divorces and breakups, and talking with them after the fact, that many of them wish that they had worked things out.  They seemed happier married, and together in relationships then they did separated and miserable.

It seems to me that almost all the problems that couples have in a relationship stat with a lack of 2 things, Communication skills and compromise. Let’s talk about each one.

1. Communication skills. Being able to express your feelings in an effective way where your partner can understand them is one of the best skills that a person can acquire. When conflicts in your relationship come up, there is almost always miss-communication. So, next time a problem comes up, instead getting defensive, or argumentative right away, start out with these words. “I feel …….” These two words will go a long way. If you are having an argument about something as simple as where to go out to eat, start out by saying, “I feel like you always choose this restaurant, and I don’t rely like it, why don’t we try going somewhere else tonight.”

Saying this will help the other person realize that you feel differently about whatever the argument is about, and will approach them in a non conflicting way. This is a great start to saving a relationship.

#2. Compromise. In any relationship there has to be compromise. Weather it’s friendship, or a relationship, you need to compromise to get along. We can use the example of where to go out to eat, if your partner wants to go out for Mexican food, and you think they always want to go out for Mexican food, you could say something like, ” why don’t we go out for Mexican tonight, but next time we go out, let’s go for Chinese food.” This shows that you are willing to compromise, and brings up your feelings in a non confrontational way.

Try applying these two methods into your daily conversation with your partner. It may not always be easy, but if you work at it together, you will get in the habit of talking things out, and learn to get along. Saving your relationship, and helping you to grow closer to each other. Remember there is no room in a relationship for selfishness, and if you are both giving 100% There is nothing you can’t do together.

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